What to Do When Your “I’m Fine.” is Said in That Weird Ross-from-Friends Voice
“I’m fine.”
(Said in that slightly-too-high-pitched, clearly-not-fine Ross-from-Friends kind of way.)
You’re doing what you need to do. Showing up to work, replying to texts, keeping the house semi-decent. Maybe even making people laugh. On the outside, it looks like you’ve got it together.
But internally? It’s… not great.
The Postpartum Mental Load Didn’t Come with a Manual
You’re standing in the middle of your living room, holding a baby that won’t stop crying. There’s a half-eaten granola bar on the counter. A cold cup of coffee. A partner who doesn’t get why you’re mad. And this low, constant hum of “Is this my life now?”
You’re not ungrateful. You’re not doing it wrong. You’re just in the middle of a massive identity shift—and no one gave you a manual for how to feel like you again. Or maybe, the version of you that’s emerging is someone you don’t quite know how to navigate.
What If We’re Not on the Same Page Anymore?
You used to finish each other’s sentences. Now you’re finishing arguments alone.
Maybe you’re not fighting, but you’re not quite connecting either. Or maybe the conflict is loud—and exhausting. You love this person. You’ve built a life together. But lately, it feels like you’re living parallel lives instead of a shared one.
Dating After Divorce: 5 Ways Therapy Will Help
You used to finish each other’s sentences. Now you’re finishing arguments alone.
Maybe you’re not fighting, but you’re not quite connecting either. Or maybe the conflict is loud—and exhausting. You love this person. You’ve built a life together. But lately, it feels like you’re living parallel lives instead of a shared one.
Feeling Unseen After Baby? How Partner Support Impacts Maternal Mental Health
A Familiar Scene in the Therapy Room…
They sat on opposite ends of the couch, both exhausted but unsure how to bridge the growing gap between them. She had tears in her eyes, saying she felt invisible—overwhelmed, under-supported, and completely alone in motherhood. He looked surprised, even hurt. "But I’ve been doing everything I can,” he said, listing the diapers changed, meals cooked, and night feedings attempted.
Healing in Community During AAPI Heritage Month: Reflections from a Biracial Asian American Therapist
Reflections from a Biracial Asian American Therapist: Healing in Community During AAPI History Month
Should We Break Up or Work Through It? 5 Questions to Ask Yourself
It’s one of the hardest questions we can face in a relationship: Should we break up, or can we work through this? Whether you’re feeling stuck in patterns that never change, questioning your connection, or just feeling exhausted by it all, this decision can feel overwhelming.
A Therapist’s Reflections on the “Let Them Theory”
A Therapist’s Reflections on the “Let Them Theory”
How to Use a Consultation to Find the Best Couples Therapist
How to use a consultation to find the best couples therapist
Why Couples Should Go To Therapy While Dating
Why Couples Should Go To Therapy While Dating